http://thoughtcatalog.com/2012/25-things-ive-learned-in-my-twenties/#.T7sOQvGKMYY.facebook

This whole list mostly applies to my life right now and will probably still apply to my life come later years. Here are some of the numbers that I feel most applies to me.

1. You can’t date a jerk and expect to turn them into a good person. Jerks are fully committed to being unpleasant. Those brief moments of tenderness they give you are designed to trip you up and give you false hope. It’s best to stay away altogether.

—I dated a jerk freshman thru sophomore year of college, maybe a little bit longer than that, I’m not really sure. He was the one that drove me completely insane. He was the one that I wanted to punch and kick and yell, “Why do you do what you do because you suck!” Why was I with him for so long? Because he was my first love, which leads me into this next point from the list.

17. You’ll always care about your first love. That doesn’t make you crazy, it just makes you human. When relationships end, it’s not so cut and dry. You carry everyone you’ve ever loved into every relationship thereafter.

—For a long time I thought caring about him made me crazy. Because I got into another relationship which was very healthy for me, but I still cared about the first guy, I cared about what he did, which girls he hung out with prior to our relationship. I don’t know if I should have been caring about those things because I still loved him, but I did. Right now I don’t anymore, but he still has a place in my heart. There will always be an emotional attachment.

9. Doing drugs is fun until it’s not, until it starts affecting your life in negative ways and leaves you feeling guilty and wrecked. If that happens, you should stop doing them.

—I don’t personally do drugs, on occasion I smoke a little bit of weed, but other than that I’m very clean. But this point relates to me because my best friends smokes an insane amount of weed. She’s still 23 and still wants to party all the time, but I wish she would stop smoking. I’m 23 as well and don’t feel the need to do much of that anymore, but I have to remind myself that we all grow at our own pace. Sometimes I blame the people she lives with, but I lived with 9 guys at one point and I hardly drank or smoked with them. I guess it just depends on the person and their strength to say no.

These points in the list were the ones that I most related with. All the other ones still applied to me and my life, but I didn’t feel they were as prominent as these specific points. Hope everyone else can relate to these too!

3 years today (well, technically some time in the spring time, we don’t really know what day we started dating, but…) John and I started dating.

In the early fall of sophomore year of college, I moved into the other side of John’s duplex. I was already good friends with some of his roommates, and that’s how I heard about the duplex opening up, but I was not too familiar with him. I had been over to his house before I moved in for parties and just hanging out with his roommates, but I never got to know him during that time. When I moved in, John was in California working and spending some time with his family. I remember we talked on Facebook once I was all moved in and we talked about how fun our house would be since it was all friends and talked about all the fun things we could all do together.

When our conversation ended I was so surprised on how nice he was. I was stoked to get to know him better. During that time in the duplex John and I became close friends, and due to certain circumstances we couldn’t be more than friends for awhile. Once the situation became not a situation anymore, we decided to take it to the next level.

Who knew that it would last 3 years!!! I knew he was a keeper, but I did not know that I could psychically and mentally be in a relationship for this long. Like every other couple, John and I have definitely had our ups and downs, our highs and lows and super lows (haha :)) but we’ve been able to work through them and continue to keep our relationship strong. He has always been here for me, to support me whenever I’ve needed it, to make me laugh, to hug me when I’m sad. I don’t know what I would do without him. I love him soooo much and I can’t wait for the years with him to continue.

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now that i’m done with school i’m so effin bored. blahhhhhh

boyfriend has been gone for almost a week. the days are going by soooo slow…mehhhh!!!